About the author

Hi! I’m Vicki and for as long as I can remember, I wanted to be a mom, but for a long time I genuinely didn’t think it was going to happen.

I watched my friends settle down, get married and start their families while I seemed to bounce from one mediocre relationship to another, encountering a fairly impressive collection of shitheads along the way. Cheats, liars and downright scallywags (I have used the parenting friendly version of the word I really would have liked to use here!!), the lot of them.

Eventually, I started to begrudgingly make peace with the idea that maybe marriage and babies just weren’t going to be part of my story. I travelled, I had brilliant friends, I had a good life, and I was happy.

Well…I was okay.

Then my now husband bounded into my life.

He was this enormous ball of energy and fun who completely turned everything I thought I knew about relationships on its head. We were friends first (it’s a long story and I won’t bore you with it), but eventually we sorted ourselves out!!

He’s now my husband, my rock, my soulmate, my best friend and every other nauseating cliché I previously would have rolled my eyes at.

After lots of conversations and some very happy drunk years of having fun and dating each other, we decided we wanted to get married and try for a family.

Turns out, getting pregnant isn’t necessarily the wam, bam, baby situation I’d naively assumed it would be.

It took us two (quite fretful) years.

We’d even started having tests to find out whether there was a reason it wasn’t happening when, one evening involving approximately two bottles of Prosecco, something finally went right.

I got pregnant and a few weeks after my 40th birthday, I gave birth to my beautiful daughter.

It changed absolutely everything.

 
 

I didn’t lose my pink

I’d heard people talk about women “losing their pink” after having a baby. That feeling that somewhere amongst the nappies, feeding, sleepless nights and enormous mental load, the person you were before motherhood sort of vanished and got left in the past.

I completely understand it, because I’d watched friends go through the enormous highs and lows of motherhood long before I experienced it myself, and I know becoming a mom is different for every single one of us.

I didn’t lose my pink. I found my plumage.

For me, motherhood brought out a version of me that I didn’t really know was there.

I’d love to say that I was calmer and more organised and that I suddenly found a penchant for ironing (!?!?!?!?) but that absolutely did not happen!! I am one-hundred percent the most opposite mother of the perfect ones you see online that seem to effortlessly glide through childbirth, weaning, potty training and leaky boobs!

I’m still clumsy and I’m terribly messy. I’m usually carrying seventeen things at once and dropping at least three of them. My attempts at wholesome parenting activities regularly descend into absolute chaos. There are toys everywhere, I’m permanently Googling something and I’m very much learning this as I go.

However, I absolutely bloody love being a mom.

I love learning about how these tiny humans work, I love watching my daughter discover things for the first time and I love the ridiculous bits, the fascinating bits, the mundane bits and even some of the really bloody difficult bits.

So that’s really where Where The Wild Moms Are came from.

I wanted something that felt a bit more real

When I was pregnant and then became a mum, I had approximately nine million questions. Some were important, some were ridiculous, some were so gross that I didn’t think I should ask another actual human!! (Even AI judged me!)

 Whilst I found loads of parenting content online, I sometimes struggled to find somewhere that felt like me. I didn’t want motherhood presented as one endless montage of neutral nurseries, matching linen outfits and women drinking still-hot coffee in immaculate kitchens.

My house doesn’t look like that and I don’t look like that. My parenting damn sure doesn’t look like that.

I wanted somewhere that could talk about how incredible motherhood can be without pretending it’s always easy. Somewhere we could talk about pregnancy, birth, feeding, toddlers, relationships, mental load and all the other things nobody really prepares you for. Somewhere useful, but not preachy, because I’m am so far from being expert that it’s laughable.

I’m a first-time mom and, frankly, half the time I have absolutely no idea what I’m doing. I’m just really interested in finding out.

So this is where I share the things I’ve learned, the things I’ve researched, the things that have worked for us, the things that spectacularly haven’t and the things I wish someone had told me sooner.

There’ll probably be some chaos along the way…..Actually, there will definitely be chaos.

 I wouldn’t have it any other way.

I hope you like my blog. I hope you find some use in it and if you don’t I will probably leave lots of links along the way of websites that might actually be helpful to you!!

Happy motherhood my wild little internet mommy friend!